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Why can't people get along?
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I want a full list of reasons and supports ( Yes, this is just like writing an essay, the only difference is that I am a very easy teacher .
Full list of whoa... ...reasons, supports... ...um...uh-huh...whatever you say, miss teacher!
First of all, I want to paraphrase and expand that question, from my perspective it looks like this: why can't people get along i.e. why are people arguin', b!tchin', fightin', complainin', cryin', hatin', pickin' on/messin' with each other etc...
In part it's an ego problem, on the other hand it's standard tribal mentality.
In any bigger group, a leader has to emerge. Males compete for the alpha position (who's the best, strongest, who gets the females), and where there's competition, there's also arguin', b!tchin', fightin', complainin', cryin', hatin', pickin' on/messin' with each other etc...or worse...that's a simplified version of course, yet the sole cause of most 'not-getting-alongs'.
In any group - no matter how cooperative that group is - friction and misunderstandings occur. Most of the time, instead of resolving the conflict peacefully (listening to each other, hearing the other side and their opinions, trying to reach a compromise, giving both parties a chance to resolve), the easier route is taken: arguin', b!tchin', fightin', complainin', cryin', hatin', pickin' on/messin' with each other etc...
Some other short points I'd like to make:
- people are competing for limited resources, positions of power, wealth etc. -->> competition -->> not-getting along
- diplomacy and politics (almost self-explanatory), the bigger version of not getting along...no reasons or supports here, just throwing some examples around
- people pick sides and defend their version of truth vehemently (whether they are right or not), which leads to conflict; people hate to be proven wrong (their ego refuses to allow it), hence they argue 'to the death'
- guys can't get along because 'getting along' would be too nicey-nice, it's not macho etc...not that the ladies are excluded from this, but most of their reasons remain a mystery to me...must be coming from jealousy, gossip and such
This is true in real life as it is true online. Just look at this forum: there are examples of good players losing games, but their ego cannot accept defeat, they need excuses, someting/somebody else to blame. It usually starts with posting a replay, followed by arguin', b!tchin', fightin', complainin', cryin', hatin', pickin' on/messin' with each other etc...it's not limited to that scenario, but it's an easy one to observe
Short answer: people can't get along because the overwhelming majority have huge egos. It has to be that way, that's how you get ahead in life; if you wanna stay on top, you better have a big ego. It's the sad fact of our current state of society that humility, modesty, compassion (to name a few valuable qualities) is not seen as a virtue.
(I know I repeated a list too many times, I'm ok if it's not an A.)